A friend of mine recently asked me to list five things that I love about myself, and you know what? I struggled to come up with just five without thinking really hard about it.
What is easy though, is thinking of negative things about yourself. I’m sure that just like me, most of you can easily criticise the way you look, what you’re not good enough at and who is better than you, because a lot of us struggle with loving ourselves. Well that’s crazy because we’re all great people in some shape or form.
The world we live in makes it hard not to compare yourself to others, to wish you were fitter, prettier, smarter, more travelled or wealthier. The list can go on and on. But what my friend reminded me of was the importance of remembering why YOU’RE great and why YOU deserve to love yourself.
Firstly, it’s important for your mental wellbeing. Constantly being hard on yourself is just downright depressing. Try thinking of a few positive things about yourself when you wake up in the morning and see what a difference it makes to your mood for the rest of the day. Positive thinking brings positivity to your life (if you haven’t read The Secret, read it!).
Thinking positively about yourself also helps you to perform better. If you go into something thinking “I’m going terrible at this”, then yes, you will perform badly because you believe that you’re bad. But having faith in yourself and thinking in a more positive way will help you to achieve more. Go into new tasks and experiences thinking “this will be great, I will be great”, and you’re far more likely to succeed.
Loving yourself will also lead to better relationships with others. From experience, I know that when I’m in a bad place with myself, my love life and friendships suffer. Loving who you are brings such confidence, and I truly believe this radiates from a person and makes them far more lovable. That’s not to say that when you’re feeling down that you deserve to have failed relationships, I just find that I enjoy who am I with others far more when I’m feeling in a positive frame of mind.
Now I’m not saying that I’m the most confident, self-loving person ever, but I’d like to think I’m on a journey to loving who I am. I’m going to make it my mission to more frequently think about why I’m great, what I’m good at, what is beautiful about me and why I deserve self-love just as much as anyone else, and I encourage you to do the same!