Overcoming self-doubt 


My boss said to me a couple of months ago, “Don’t ask for help with something until you’ve given it a go yourself first.” She wasn’t trying to be nasty or negative when she said this though, she was giving me positive advice.

I’d asked her to write a headline for a press release that I had written because I had no ideas. She told me that she’s always happy to offer advice or help me with something, but she wanted me to try really hard to at least come up with some ideas.

So I went away and thought really hard to produce some ideas, which turned out to be great. So, I learned my lesson.


It wasn’t that I was too lazy to think of a headline, as I had spent hours writing the press release and was invested in it already. I hadn’t tried hard enough at first because I assumed my boss could do a better job than me.

I don’t just do this at work, I do this in my personal life too. I’ll always get someone else to park my car in a tricky situation, ask my boyfriend to change a lightbulb because I assume I can’t do it, or ask a friend to calculate a difficult sum for me (these are just some small examples). I almost always assume that someone can do it better than me. And that isn’t always the case!


How are we meant to learn new skills or get better at anything without at least giving them a go?

When my boss said this to me, it’s like a lightbulb switched on in my head. Why do I never believe in myself? Why do I always put myself down? Why do I always worry that whatever I do, could be done better by someone else? It’s because I suffer with self-doubt, meaning I lack confidence in myself and my abilities. 

I’m trying hard to switch out of this mindset and start believing in myself. Yes, some people may be more skilled in certain areas, but maybe I am too. I’m making a conscious effort to try new things, learn new skills, and attempt things that I never thought I could do. And if I fail? Then I’ll ask for help!

I’m glad that a single conversation made me realise how much I doubt myself, and now that I am aware of this, I’m going to try my best to ignore that little voice in my head that says “you can’t do it”, “you’re not good enough” and “don’t even bother”, because I am good enough, and I can do things, if only I try. 

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  1. September 23, 2017 / 3:14 pm

    Lovely post! I was exactly the same until I became a single parent and I had no choice but to do everything myself. You are good enough and you can achieve anything. <3

    Heather xox || http://www.xhighlandbeauty.co.uk

    • rosieslifexo
      September 28, 2017 / 6:10 pm

      It’s amazing what we can achieve when we have to just get on with things and do it! ❤️❤️ thank you, this comment made my day! xxx

  2. September 23, 2017 / 3:15 pm

    Your boss has given you such good advice! Thank you for sharing xx

  3. September 23, 2017 / 3:37 pm

    LOVE that little story and this blog post. I remember when I first started college I always left my essays until the last minute because I feared they wouldn’t be good enough and hence didn’t do them until I had no choice, but overtime understood that TRYING is required to improve at something and grow as a person..shifting out of a mindset of self doubt is one of the best things we can do for ourselves! ❤️ Have a great weekend dear xx

    • rosieslifexo
      September 28, 2017 / 6:11 pm

      I was exactly the same at uni! It’s so refreshing when you realise that you can actually do things if you just try. Thank you for this lovely comment ❤️😘 xxxx

  4. Arielle
    September 23, 2017 / 3:51 pm

    Great advice! I too usually ask for help whenever I’m in a situation I can’t fix. I have to remind myself to try it myself first. Oddly, sometimes it’s the opposite- sometimes I forget to ask for help and realize I can’t do everything on my own. Your post is so great, and I hope it will help others to find the balance between believing in themselves, and knowing when to ask for help.

    Arielle- https://littledismaid.com

    • rosieslifexo
      September 28, 2017 / 6:12 pm

      Yes totally agree with it being the opposite sometimes. It’s good to actually realise that we can’t do EVERYTHING and sometimes we do need help! Thanks for the lovely comment. Hope you’re good, and have a lovely weekend! ❤️ xxx

  5. September 23, 2017 / 7:20 pm

    I love it when the little things that you hear in life, read in a book, or see on TV, make a big impact on your perspective – it can be quite magical. I loved reading this post and best of luck on your journey of self-belief 🙂 x

    Alice // The Rose Glow

    • rosieslifexo
      September 28, 2017 / 6:13 pm

      Thanks Alice! It’s funny what little things can make such a big impact to our lives isn’t it! xxxx

  6. September 23, 2017 / 9:51 pm

    Great post. I feel like I can relate to this work-wise. It’s such a shame how much self doubt we can have for ourselves but it’s so amazing when we can overcome it!

    xoxo Katelyn

  7. September 25, 2017 / 10:39 am

    Rosie I relate to this so much! I used to do the exact same and always wanted other people to help me because I felt like they could do it better. Slowly I’ve started to do it myself before I ask for help and it’s so rewarding! 👍🏼

    http://www.natalieleanne.com

  8. October 25, 2017 / 8:48 pm

    This sounds so familiar, Unfortunately, I fall under this category too. Thank you for writing this it is eye opening xx

    • rosieslifexo
      October 29, 2017 / 4:50 pm

      Glad you found it helpful Jade! xx

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